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30/10/2020 at 2:59 pm #10780RookieParticipant
I’m new to the site, generally bad with social media, and have already made a mistake – first sending a message to the wrong person, then, having corrected that error, realising I’d missed the rule about asking for a friend request, waiting for acceptance, and only then messaging people. The aspie side of me is mortified by the ADHD side that jumped in without double checking things. Maybe I should continue to keep away from social media…!
Has anyone else suffered similar mishaps trying to navigate the online world? I hope people are as understanding as they can be in real life.30/10/2020 at 11:48 pm #10785sb10Participant
“I’d missed the rule about asking for a friend request, waiting for acceptance, and only then messaging people”
Oh, I did not know that such a rule even existed. But I would not be offended if I get a message first. I think, you are right with the good intentions, as you yourself write here: https://www.aspie-singles.com/forums/topic/not-diagnosed/#post-10784
Can’t imagine that anyone would be offended.01/11/2020 at 1:22 pm #10787Smart&StupidParticipant
Yes,I used to be on facebook a lot.So much, that it interfered with work.Also,I used to post really personal stuff on there ,much to the amusement and horror of my “friends”.
With online dating,I tend to shoot myself in the foot by revealing my flaws in my profile.:) I have a twitter account but never tweet as they would tend to become mental after a while.I feel like I have not done much right on social media.01/11/2020 at 3:09 pm #10788RookieParticipant
I think social media isn’t really set up to help us be our best selves, so it’s understandable to make mistakes. I suppose if you know what your weaknesses or trigger points are then you can set up some sort of system – eg pause before responding to something – that allows you the time to make the choice you would later wish you had made if you just reacted instead.05/11/2020 at 1:50 am #10802Smart&StupidParticipant
Social media is very artificial,people are just not meant to use it for long,they are meant to be outside doing things and spending time with others in real life.While social media can be incredibly beneficial in moderation,in excess it’s very unhealthy for mind and body.I tend to get obsessive about it and so for me it’s all or nothing.I don’t participate in most social media as a result.I see large numbers of young people walking down the street looking at their “smart phone” which is really a mini computer with a phone included.I know they are getting into very bad habits and stuffing up their life gradually without realising it.They should be looking around themsleves at real life.I think social media is partly responsible for that problem.14/11/2020 at 4:01 am #10824PokesomiParticipant
hey don’t worry about that misstep, it happens. that measure is in place to protect all users from spam, occasionally it goofs,
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