Reply To: That very first date

[Brad]

Hi DragonEmbers,

I understand your take and the reason you feel that way. The classification is exact, its the procedure for dating stereo typical people.

It does take a lot of work. For me that looks like putting the burner on ruminate for a few days and see what shakes loose. “Where ya from” leads to an answer. What are some of the things I should ask about the area? End result. Where ya from, school, hangout spots that were fun growing up. You’ll be provided a ton of things to talk about naturally.

You get to review the content. Vibe check it. Vs. well I better say something soon or this will be awkward and toss out a land mine by accident like any political thing at all. Whoops! All aboard the fail boat. This method allowed me to get through the door. From that vantage point they could see who I am and believe in me. Effort has value and it is perceived when you put in the work for the stereo typical person.

I had the opportunity to date someone on the spectrum for the first time a few years ago. We shared some of the same special interests, that was the most entertaining dates I’ve had. I felt really comfortable. Normally I’m putting on a performance. This was just fun.

Same favorite shows, games, hobbies, deep intellectual conversations. Also big on humor so our sides hurt! It was amazing. Finishing each others lines, etc. For the first time in my life I didn’t feel alone. Someone not only gets it but lives it.

Sadly that didn’t work out. There was trouble in areas that made her unsafe to be around, caught on early at least. Hope the next experience is absent that. If it wasn’t so severe I would have invested. But I saw a brief glimpse in to this dating landscape and what it could bring. Hope I get another opportunity.

What you said made me face a reality I’ve ignored for a while. I walked away 8 years ago. Two dates since (both on spectrum). That was the only reason I was interested. I’m where your at now, but I wasn’t always. The landscape changed, I only see value in this.

Hey thanks for the response. You helped me see things clearly.