Reply To: I find people off the spectrum lie too much

[Anonymous]

Hello,

I think growing up the thing that both children and adults seemed to resent in me was my refusal to lie. It’s not like I’m incapable (although as a child perhaps I was) but I just don’t see it as healthy, or as necessary as neurotypicals seem to think it is. In my opinion, most people who lie do it because they’re afraid to face the truth or because in that moment it’s easier to deal with/ makes them look good. I’ve always pushed my family to be honest and it’s not always been appreciated, but at least when they interact with me they know who I am. One thing I’ve found is that people are easily embarrassed and so if you lead with a similar mistake etc on your part then they’re more likely to admit to their own mistakes rather than denying they made any… just in case that helps others here. I used to be more judgmental but since early 20s have realised compassion for what others may find difficult – in this case, blunt honesty, is more encouraging and helpful. People are much more likely to be real if they feel there’s acceptance there.