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24/04/2018 at 12:00 pm #5520
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Inactivethis is something I did a lot and when I found out about being on the spectrum it totally made sense.
I have always been big into playing video games. I spent a ton of time playing them, maybe too much, growing up. there was a time when I went over to a kids house who had an NES. he had Super C which had recently come out at the time(totally dating myself). I played that single player while this kid and another kid who had came over watched. I beat the game on my first time playing it ever. after that I kept playing other game he had, not paying attention to the kid at all. eventually he went to have dinner. I didn’t go with him and kept playing. eventually my mom came and got me and I went home. I didn’t say anything to the kid as all I cared about was having an opportunity to play video games.
on another occasion when I was in middle school a kid from school had a sega genesis. he would play with me for a while and then he would get bored and go do something else. he would go have dinner and i’d still be playing. my parents didn’t come get me this time as when I was done playing i’d just walk out saying nothing. I don’t think they cared.
there’s lots of other odd stories related to this in my past. what are some odd social things that you have done in your life that you would totally contribute to being on the spectrum?
03/02/2026 at 5:28 am #36531DragonEmbersParticipant“Asperger’s diaries.” I’ve begun to notice when people talk about the autism spectrum as if it’s 100% Asperger’s Syndrome. This website is even named after ‘aspies’ even though it’s apparently open to all autistic people.
Why do people talk as if AS=autism?
27/02/2026 at 11:25 pm #36636
BradParticipantThe story about your gaming experience growing up. I still have a friend like that. I’ll head over there, watch him play, hang for a few hours and leave. That’s been the relationship for 30 years, haha. Neither of us are great on small talk. But share the same interests. That is truly enough some times, wouldn’t worry about it! The game fills empty space in conversation, increases comfort level. Takes a while but you can find someone to make that work, especially now with dating being a thing of the past for western society. We have a lot of time now to make that work!
28/02/2026 at 12:11 am #36637BradParticipantHi Dragon,
You’re definitely not alone. This topic sets people off in just about every space I’ve seen it come up.
Here’s the straightforward answer with a little context
Asperger syndrome was officially rolled into Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) in 2013, when the DSM-5 was published by the American Psychiatric Association. That’s when it stopped being its own separate diagnosis and became part of the broader autism spectrum.
At this point, “Asperger’s” is more of an identity label than a medical one.
Personally, I still prefer the term Asperger. Most people don’t really know what it means, and honestly, I’m okay with that. The second you say “autism,” people tend to immediately treat you differently even though most of them don’t fully understand that either. If I’m going to use a label publicly at all, Asperger is the only one I’d invest in based on other peoples response.
I’ve noticed a lot of older adults feel the same way. Asperger felt specific. ASD is an umbrella term. And for people who value precision and clear definitions, that shift can feel frustrating. I get where that reaction comes from.I’ve also been volunteering at some spectrum related events. From what I’ve seen, anyone diagnosed under 18 is classified as ASD now. But a lot of the adults at these events usually 30 to 50 years old still use and relate to the term Asperger. All events for those age groups go with Asperger for the listing title of the event. Younger crowd “Autism or ASD”
A reason for dislike for the Asperger term. Who the condition was named after and the acts of things that individual performed to obtain those answers. Simply put Dr Asperger was very unethical. I had no idea, but more then one person told me. Fact checked it, accurate, worth a read! Both sides have really good points! But many felt really strongly about this topic. That’s why I wanted to put all the cards out there.
Taking a position on either side that aligns with your values is the right answer. There is no wrong one in this case, which means we can’t screw this up! Lol. Hope that was helpful, took a bit to figure out.
05/03/2026 at 4:19 am #36657DragonEmbersParticipantWell I don’t have any problem with the term Asperger’s, but it doesn’t apply to all of us, so sometimes I wonder who people are talking to/about when they mention only ‘aspies’ in a general autism community.
But maybe this doesn’t apply to this thread because OP was referring only to himself.
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