Reply To: I find people off the spectrum lie too much

[Loves Ferraris]

Goodness me, talk about echoing all my problems with NTs lying. I know that this thread is more to do with dating, but I have a major problem atm with a close family member who tells dreadful lies about very important things and people.. PapaBear earlier said to be yourself or it will kill you and of course he’s right and I can’t continue to crap on my own integrity. I wondered if anybody here has to face a similar confrontation with an (narcissistic) NT? I’m terrible at confrontations, more or less instant meldown if things heat up.

@ Ruth Piazzon

Hi Ruth. There are 2 narcissistic NT’s in my family. They show the same behaviour you describe and also try to create divisions between family members by setting them up against each other, so to speak. Whenever, they show disruptive behaviour, my strategy has always been to refuse to interact with them, until they decide to behave in a rational manner. They don’t like it when I take that stance but they are also aware that I won’t tolerate that kind of behaviour. But I admit I can be blunt at times.